Bummer...I had to take Mei Lin's pictures and information off of my blog because apparently China doesn't want her personal info out there until we have preapproval to adopt her. I thought it was okay because we were told we wouldn't need to get preapproval...but I had to take them off anyway. I hope to post them in about a month when we are officially "approved".
We are extremely excited to announce the newest addition to our family!!
We chose Mei Lin from our agency's waiting child list. She will be one in January and has a minor heart defect, otherwise she is said to be healthy.
Unfortunately we can't post her information yet, but hope to by next month.
Please pray with us for little Mei Lin as she waits for her family. We are hoping to travel by March '07. God is so good!
Here’s how the last week has unfolded.....
Our agency posted its Waiting Child list on Friday (11.10.06). A waiting Child list is a list of children with special needs and the process for adopting one of these children is entirely different than the non-special needs adoption (Miyah was NSN).
Well, there were many beautiful children on the list with very minor special needs, but I was immediately drawn to a tiny little girl with big dark eyes and the sweetest little lips. I clicked on her photo for more information to find that she had an atrial septum defect ("ASD" is a hole in her heart) and tricuspid incompetence. To be completely honest, heart disease was a gray area I wasn't certain we would consider...until I saw this little girl. For some reason all apprehension left me and I just knew she was to be our Mei Lin.
So, when Pat asked about the waiting child list I told him about the little girl with the sweet face and heart defect. I was stunned when he said, “Well, that JUST means she may need surgery.” Just?
And that’s what I said to him, “JUST....doesn’t that mean like, open heart surgery?” I was encouraged and extremely surprised by his response, but we both knew we needed to do a lot of praying before we made such an important decision. Pat lost his brother to cancer when he was in high school and he knows the toll terminal illness takes on a family, so he wanted to proceed cautiously.
We had until Monday morning at 10 am to decide if we were going to put in a request to review her file.
We discussed it at dinner Sunday night and as we drove home from dinner Steven Curtis Chapman was on the radio talking about National Adoption Month. He mentioned that his third daughter adopted from China was on a special needs list with a heart defect but when they brought her home she was perfectly healthy. I couldn’t help but give Pat a little nudge. A sign from God? Absolutely! Isn’t God amazing?
By Monday morning we had both agreed that we would look at the child’s file, but figured it was a long-shot. It’s a crazy race to be first to review a file...kind of like trying to get an Xbox 360 on the day after Thanksgiving (bad analogy, but you get the idea).
At 9:50 Monday morning, I was poised in front of the computer, praying and waiting for 10:00 so I could click on the link and post our request. By 10:00 there were so many people attempting to request files that the server was bogged down and sooo excrutiatingly slow. When we tried to submit the form it would say “website is busy, please try again”. Arghh! Even though I knew God was in control I wasn't feeling it at that moment and severe frustration was taking hold of me. By 10:10 I finally got a confirmation and then our computer began crashing (something it’s been doing often lately – double arghh).
I stepped away from the computer and told God it was all up to him now; close the door if she isn't to be ours and help me to be okay with that.
A half hour later I got the call from my agency saying we were first in line to review C410’s (her number) file. I was stunned, laughing and crying at the same time!
The rest of that week we completed the translation of her medical records (thanks, Richard!) and had them reviewed by the pediatric cardiologists. With Pat out of town we had only scant moments to talk about this big decision, but we both prayed constantly for clarity.
By the end of the week we had made our decision to adopt her!
And we've received excellent reports on her medical. Two cardiologists confirmed that she has very minor congenital heart disease. Her medical exam and echocardiogram were done at 4 months of age. At that time she had a 3 mm hole in her atrial septum, which is quite small and may close on its own if it hasn’t already. There is a small possibility that she would need surgery to close it, but even that could possibly be done without open heart surgery.
Of course, we have to be prepared that her condition could be more serious than her medical report states, but we're praying for her complete healing.
We know she was destined to be ours and we can’t wait to bring her home.
We have so much to be thankful for. Happy Thanksgiving to you all!!
Last week Miyah and a few friends helped Elizabeth celebrate her third birthday! Here are a few photos from the party.
Elizabeth is getting a little help from Isabella (far right).
Miyah woke up from her nap one afternoon, and came into the room we were all in, laid down on the couch, fell asleep, rolled off the couch, and continued to sleep in this position for a good half hour.
These are just a couple of photos I couldn't get on the previous post.
Miyah with her Family Day gift...dolls from China.
The whole family at PF Changs
*****November 7, 2004 We hold Miyah for the very first time!*****
******Back at the hotel; bathed and ready to play (12 months)*****
**********************And Miyah today (3 years)**********************
***********Miyah's referral picture (about six months old)**********
It's hard to believe that two years ago today we were standing in that little room in Guangzhou, China holding our daughter for the first time.
An AMAZING moment that I wish everyone could experience.
But, what is even more amazing is every moment since then. We're now blessed to spend every day with her...getting to know her and falling more in love with her each day.
She really has brought so much joy to our home. We didn't think we were missing any joy before she came, but now we can't imagine life without her. She's as sweet, smart, spirited and cute as can be.
I love her imagination and to watch her pretend and learn new things.
I love night time when she gets silly and hyper.
I love that at one moment she's a princess and the next she's a dinosaur.
I love it when she says she needs snuggles.
I love playing the "pretend I'm a pillow" game.
I love when she tells me she loves me soooooooooooooo much.
I love butterfly, eskimo, and fishy kisses.
I love her ballet dancing in her tutu.
We celebrated Family Day yesterday instead of today because Megan was gone to ballet and Pat to ministry school tonight. We went out for Chinese and Miyah got a doll we bought for her in China.
This second year at home I think she began to understand "family". After so many transitions in her first year, I hope she finally understands the permanence of family. She often says, "This is my family right here", pointing to all of us and sometimes adding "always and forever"; and "I like my family". Tonight we were talking about the meaning of adoption and she repeated, "You apdopped...adopped...adopted me?". I told her yes and that adoption meant she was part of our family forever and she said, "I love my family". Even though we talk about adoption fairly often, it was really the first time she mentioned the word.
By the way, November is National Adoption Month! I'm always recommending adoption. There are few things in life more rewarding...I guarantee.
As of last week's win, Matt's football team became the undefeated, STATE CHAMPIONS! Last night's win in Birmingham made them the NCSC NATIONAL CHAMPS!!
What a game! One of only two close games all year, but they won 32 to 46 in the end.
Matt has done so well this year, playing most of every game and we are so proud of him and his team...and his great team of coaches. Well done, Knights!!
Create Your Own!
I've never seen a child so excited to go to the doctor! We recently changed doctors and she loves her new (female) doctor. Her first doctor was a male and she's still very leery of strange men. She'd bury her head in my chest the moment Dr. E walked into the room. Now, with Dr. H, she's chatty and happy through the whole exam.
Now for the part where I feel guilty....I suspected the doctor would offer a flu shot, but I wasn't sure so I didn't even mention injections in our daily talks about the upcoming doctor visit. After all the excitement and happily chatting with the doctor and doing so well when the doctor wanted to clean the mound of wax out of her ear (more on that later), she was totally shocked when the shot came. Right before the nurse came in with the shot, I told her she was going to get an injection but it would only be a pinch. Well, her reaction was pitiful. She acted so betrayed. She favored her leg for hours with a look that kept saying to me, "Just a pinch, hey?". I was feeling quite awful.
Anyway, we were ordered to start "beefing her up". Like lots of butter, peanut butter, whole milk, etc. Today's lunch was grilled cheese with loads of butter on both sides of both slices of bread and lots of cheese. Gosh, how did she get so lucky! I'll most likely gain the ten pounds just nibbling on all the yummy food she gets to eat.
So, her stats once again show that she doesn't come close to making it on the American charts. But she does make it in the lower percentiles of the Southern Chinese Girls growth chart and probably most feline growth charts. I guess what concerned us both was that she has lost a pound in the last couple of months.
On the Chinese growth charts she's at 10% for height (34 in) and almost 25% for weight (24.5 lbs). Her head circumference did make it on the American chart, but that's just because she's so smart :). The nurse had to eyeball her height because her head didn't reach the little arm that swings down from the scale.
Oh, and the ear cleaning...apparently she makes enough wax to start her own candle factory. I guess this is common in Asians? At least many other adoptive parents have mentioned their Chinese children have the same problem. I wanted them cleaned out because she says, "Huh?" all the time now. Charming, isn't it? I figure we either need to find out if she's hearing okay or teach her to say "excuse me" because the "huh?" gets annoying. You should have seen the gob of wax the doctor pulled out of her little ear! Another thing for me to feel guilty about is that I haven't been flushing out her ears. The alcohol and vinegar the doctor said to use to flush out her ears was AWFUL smelling and Miyah and I hated it, so we haven't done it in a while. We're going to use peroxide instead.
Anyway, she does seem to hear a little better now, but the doctor wants to have her hearing checked AND....this should be fun...another round of stool samples to make sure parasites aren't the cause of the weight issue. (Eww..parasites make me think of the slug I stepped on (without shoes on) in the garage the other night...grossest thing that has ever happened to me).
With all the curiosity about the human body and her love for the doctor Miyah also loves to play doctor at home. Her toy stethoscope broke a while back, so when my friend, Michelle, asked what she'd like for her birthday I told her a doctor set. Well! You should see how she loves the new doctor set (Thanks Michelle and family!). Michelle also sent her two boxes of bandaids and a fruit Lip Smackers...which rank right up there with candy in Miyah's book. She goes around asking who needs a check up, giving the exam, injection (reassuring that "it's just pretend") then puts a Curious George bandaid on her patient. She proudly tells us she's going to be a doctor like Dr. H when she grows big. And I'm sure she could!
I still can't get the photos to upload in the "Trick or Tree" post below...so I'm posting them here. You'll have to scroll down and read the "Trick or Tree" post to know what these are about.
Trick or Treating at Children's Hope International (our adoption agency)
~~~~~~~~~~Miyah with Amanda, our social worker~~~~~~~~~ Create Your Own!
The day every ballerina waits for is the day she gets her first pointe shoes. And Megan is certainly no exception. She was so excited to get her pointe shoes last Wednesday. She immediately came home and wore them around the house. I cringe every time I see her on her toes. Actually, I didn't think much of it at first, but then I became curious about what it feels like. Since my foot is only slightly larger I slipped one on and tried to balance on my toes....OOUUCH! There is no way I could dance en pointe! Megan's teacher has prepared them by doing a lot of excercises in class and she uses her theraband to exercise her toes at home. But still, I now have a new appreciation for ballet...I mean, I always appreciated it and love to watch it; and I've always heard how painful it can be, but now I can actually feel the pain when I see someone dance en pointe.
Oh, and here's Miyah the morning after Megan got her pointe shoes. She immediately went into her room to get her "ballet slippers" and demonstrated her pointework. Megan has been teaching her ballet and she's anxious to show us her arabesque, first and second position, and releve, etc. A ballerina in the making...who also can't wait for her first pointe shoes.
